What is this thing called story?
From the beginning of time, people have created and spoken and passed on stories of our past in a desperate attempt to awaken something within the community. Ancient Greece used well-known mythological stories as backdrops to the Greek tragedies. For a short period of time, thousands would gather and take part in the religious act of emotional purging and catharsis.
In the novel The Things They Carried, Tim O'Brien mentions stories are "for joining past to the future. Stories are for those late hours in the night when you can't remember how you got from where you were to where you are. Stories are for eternity, when memory is erased, when there is nothing to remember except the story."
To me, stories bring hope. Life can get pretty messy sometimes. For all of us, disappointment lurks in the corner waiting to make his appearance. Stories remind us of the good - of those who push through conflict despite the messiness around them. It may not always end with a bow tied neatly around a happy ending, but characters within stories are noble and fight for what they know is right. They are flawed - just like us - and even through mistakes make something beautiful. This is the hope.
This past summer, sitting in a coffee shop in Nairobi, Kenya, I thought about how I would accurately tell the stories of those I met in Kibera. I wanted to return to school and let you guys know just how lucky you are to gain a free education. I wanted to make it clear that flushing toilets and central heat and air and the excess of paper, pens, books, pencils, markers, crayons...these things aren't guaranteed. I wanted to share about the two kids writing their numbers on a metal pole with chalk - only to lick the pole clean in order to start again. I wanted to share about Rose who is orphaned but finding a way to raise funds for school through her grandmother's business. I wanted to tell you of the poster hanging in the headmaster's office of what to do if you are raped...
Why?
...because I needed to remind myself of hope.
There's a fine line between experience and storytelling. I found it in Kibera. And sitting with these kids as they each shared with me their background and hopes and dreams, the dichotomy of my world and their world collided within my chest, creating a discord not easily removed. Coming home and sharing my experiences wasn't an option anymore. I needed to find the link between what I witnessed and what I hope for these kids. Walking down the dirt path lined with sewage holding the hand of Rose or Adah or David or Benjamin - I realized the grotesque beauty of storytelling. You may or may not be moved by what I say or the stories I share. But does it really matter? The thing about this fine line between experience and storytelling is that it's my experience - my story. It matters to me. It moves me. And in sharing it, I hope it moves you - but I know if it doesn't, it's okay.
....because in sharing, I've reminded myself of hope. And late at night, when I'm trying to remember how I got from there to here, this is all I need to know.
I completely get what you mean by it not mattering what other people think about your story and whether or not they understand. When I got back from Honduras I had the CUTEST picture of four of the kids I met while I was there set as the background of my computer. A few of my friends came over and, whether they were kidding or not, gave me a hard time for having kids set as my background picture and kept calling me creepy. I couldn't tell to what extent they were kidding, but nevertheless it really hurt my heart. They didn't understand that I left a little piece of my heart with each of these kids, and I wanted to think of them every time I got on my computer, and it was a reminder to myself to be praying for all the people I met in Honduras. I actually got up from my room and went and sat in a bubble bath and texted my youth pastor. He basically said, "Girl, this is your experience, and nobody else is going to understand that. If they do, they should consider themselves blessed. But if they don't, they're missing out."
ReplyDeleteWhat your youth pastor said is some good advice - and I totally don't think you're creepy for having kids as your desktop photo. ;)
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